Self Confidence

How to Solve Problems

We all solve problems everyday, some seem easy because we do them regularly other may be life change, or seem insurmountable.

When we are under stress it is common to see problems from an ‘all or nothing’ place, which adds to the stress because if feels like we must make the “right” decision or “everything” will go wrong.

When we are faced with a problem it can help to imagine being on a stepping stone and in front of you are other stepping stones with options for a solution, doing nothing and staying put is also an option. 

You can consider each option and, as best you can, imagine the outcome. 

Then choose an option knowing that when you move onto that particular stepping stone more options (stepping stones) will be open to you then and you can review the situation from a different place.

These stepping stones maybe baby steps on the way to solving a big problem.  You no longer feel rooted to the spot with fear or feeling overwhelmed by the weight of the problem.  It’s not all or nothing.

Problems can also be opportunities: they allow you to see things differently and to do things in a different way: perhaps to make a fresh start.

http://www.kent.ac.uk/careers/sk/problem-solving-skills.htm

Be Yourself

Fear of The Unknown

We often fear change because of our fear of the unknown.  What will be on the other side of the change?  Sometimes we can’t see anything on the other side.

A baby chick cannot emerge from its shell without cracking it open. This natural process has to come about to bring change, nothing can stop change.

If the baby chick does not have the strength to burst out of its shell, it will die.

There is a right time for everything. You can try to prevent changes taking place because you feel safe and secure where you are and would rather stay in the confines of that which you know rather than move out into the unknown; but in those confines you will suffocate and die.

Dare to change. 

Dare to live.

I had a black dog, his name was depression

… My Heart Is All My Own

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A Spiritual Definition of Love

The Power of Love – a Spiritual Definition of Love

by WEBADMIN

The dictionary definition of love is “a profoundly tender, deep affection for another person.” This definition sounds benign at a glance but is, of course, conditional. The belief that some people deserve our love and others don’t is at the core of romantic love. The spiritual definition of love is an enormous departure from the Hollywood version. Spiritually, love is a state of being, a higher vibrational existence that one radiates regardless of whether anything is offered in return.

The consciousness state known as love has nothing to do with emotion. Love is a state of being and a higher vibrational reality. There is no need for reciprocation when one is love. When understood in this way, we can see why the few beings who have achieved this transcendent level of consciousness positively and permanently impact the entire world. Nothing can be taken away from love itself.

The dualistic personality seeks to be served through love, while in the higher consciousness levels love exists to serve rather than for self-interest. As love becomes spiritualized, alignment with Divinity is reflected more and more as a state of being. At lower levels of consciousness, what is perceived as love is a conditional feeling that is projected onto a subject who is then believed to be special. It is primarily associated with the mating instinct. By contrast, in the higher levels of spiritual consciousness, love is self-rewarding. The more one becomes love, the more one can love. This capacity is forever expanding and grows as the narcissistic mind/ego is surrendered to God as an act of personal will.

Because love is self-fulfilling, it needs nothing. For the person at the consciousness level of love, the world is benign.  Due to the higher vibrational field of love, those in this energy realm radiate a positive vibration to all of life. Kindness, compassion, caring and other positive attitudes are expressed as a progressively more constant state until the level of unconditional love is reached. In the state of unconditional love, no one is unloveable and all judgement is released. It is realized that all of humanity’s difficulties are due to the mind and its narcissistic tendencies. Individual will becomes surrendered to Divine will, and the primary motivation becomes to benefit mankind.

Unconditional love is the primary goal of the original Christianity and serious spiritual devotees. It is the realm of saints and the highly evolved. While love requires the relinquishment of ego/mind and a surrender to the Divine, it should not be thought of as an impossible goal. In truth, each person is capable of love. It requires perseverance and personal will to surrender all positionalities in which one is “right” and justified in vindication. Instead one chooses moment by moment the path of kindness and compassion for all.

http://lifeoncue.com/spirituallove/

Loving Deeply

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.        Lao Tzu